Frequently Asked Questions
What is the Red String Society/RedStringSociety.com?
The Red String Society is a group for people whose relationships did not end with their partners’ deaths. We created RedStringSociety.com due to gaps in acceptance in widow/widowers’ groups, afterlife groups, and related places, to research and strengthen available information about maintaining a connection with romantic partners on the other side.
What is its purpose?
Although groups for widows and widowers are common (as are afterlife discussion groups), the former tend to be dating-focused and the latter are not specific to maintaining an active romantic connection with a partner on the other side.
How do these relationships work?
How much is this going to cost me?
What tools and methods support these types of relationships?
Will continued focus on my partner prolong or intensify my grief? Will I be sad forever?
Is this a religious and/or spiritual group?
Some people would consider belief in the afterlife and afterlife communication “spiritual” or “religious” by definition, but many members approach this in an entirely secular way. Our focus is on methods and techniques that work for members and supporting their way forward regardless of their religious or spiritual beliefs.
What if I’m an atheist?
There are atheist members who are in contact with their deceased partners. There is a difference between atheism and materialism. Atheism suggests lack of belief in a higher, omnipresent and omniscient being. Materialism suggests lack of belief in consciousness continuing after physical death.
Is this sort of relationship appropriate for people of faith?
The nature of this relationship is, essentially, that we can still communicate and interact with our loved ones after they die, and that we will fully rejoin them after we die. Only you can decide if your beliefs are compatible with this perspective.
What if I have a new partner? Can I still join?
Yes. Our group is solely focused on facilitating the communication and interaction between you and your loved one who has died.
Is repartnering necessarily a more psychologically and socially appropriate option?
Is it unhealthy if I want to continue my relationship? Isn’t that a form of denial?
I am a widow/widower and I would like to meet a new partner. Do you think I didn’t love my partner?
My partner died early in life, can I maintain a relationship in this situation?
Yes. We have members under 30 and over 70; the death of a soulmate can occur at any time in life. We have members with babies and small children (and grandchildren) , and members who did not have the opportunity to have children with their partners, and members who support one another adjusting to life without a partner physically present.
A medium told me my partner wants me to repartner, is that true? Do I have to?
Even the best mediums are fallible human beings like the rest of us, and can misinterpret or allow their personal beliefs to affect their readings. If your partner actually said that, the decision is still up to you.
A person said we shouldn’t hold our partners back from their spiritual progression and their new lives or circumstances, is that true?
Those same people will tell you that we are eternal beings. If we are, and we have eternity to “spiritually progress,” there is no need to worry about such things. There is no need to hurry anything on their side. Also, our partners are as capable in the afterlife as they were here of being involved in their relationship with their partner and doing other things at the same time.
I read that people “move on” after three days/40 days/two years, is that true?
No.
Will communicating with my partner cause them to be “earthbound”? Does this sort of relationship keep them from “going into the light”?
There is no evidence to suggest these ideas are anything more than myths generated by fictional media.
Do you have meetings?
Can I join if my partner is terminally ill?
Can I join if I feel an affinity with a person I have not met, who is on the other side?
Where can I find evidence, books, or more information?
You can find our growing resources page here. If you join our group, feel free to ask fellow members for recommendations or information. We’re very collaborative.
How can I learn more?
Should I visit or speak with a medium?
I am a journalist, writer, or researcher, may I interact with your group or attend your meetings?
Thank you for your interest in our group. We are available to answer questions and provide information, but request contact us directly to protect the privacy of our members.
What kind of experiences are members having?
Most members experience the immediate psychological relief that comes with having people they can talk to and who support them in their decision to continue their relationship. Our members have reported a wide range of experiences, from signs to full physical manifestations and completely real interactions with their partners.
How many members are there currently?
As of 1/20/2020, we have 585 members from around the world, male and female, from the age of 18 on up, of various races, ethnicities, professions and religious/spiritual backgrounds, including atheists and former materialists.
If I join, will my privacy be protected?
Our Facebook group is private, meaning whatever is posted there will not show up on your Facebook feed and non-members cannot see them member list or posts.
Where is my dead partner? What is the afterlife?
Click here for more information on the afterlife. You can also visit our resource page that has a growing list of links to books, videos, documentaries, websites, etc.
Can they hear us and see us?
Yes. They can also “hear” thoughts and see mental images you direct to them.
Why can’t I hear their thoughts or see imagery they send to me?
Most likely you already have (and regularly do), you just don’t realize it is your partner giving you those thoughts and imagery.
Can I join if my parent/child/sibling/best friend died?
Our group is for people who have had a romantic relationship with their partner here, in this life, before their partner died.
Why can’t I hear their thoughts or see imagery they send to me?
Most likely you already are, you just don’t realize it is your partner giving you those thoughts and images.
I’m on prescription medication for anxiety/depression. Do drugs interfere in my ability to communicate with my partner?
We have not seen any correlation between drug use and a decreased capacity to communicate and interact with our people on the other side.
Is it true that I need to “raise my vibration” in order to “get closer” to my partner’s “spiritual level?”
As a whole, our members have had the full range of partner interaction and communication regardless of their emotional or self-described “vibrational” state.
I still feel committed to my partner, how can I participate?
We have an active, private Facebook group with ongoing discussion and weekly teleconference meeting through the Zoom interface.
I keep reading about reincarnation, will my partner or has my partner reincarnated? Will they reincarnate before we're reunited?
Most credible accounts from mainstream sources indicate that reincarnation is optional and gaps between incarnations are far longer than an average human lifespan. Moreover, the same sources indicate that reincarnation before family members and close friends "reunite" is highly unusual.
I'm LGBT or polyamorous, can I join?
Of course! We have LGBT and polyamorous members in our group.
I keep reading about reincarnation, will my partner or has my partner reincarnated? Will they reincarnate before we're reunited?
Multiple lines of credible information indicate this is a baseless concern.