For people like us who have crossed-over romantic soul mate sweethearts, interest in maintaining and deepening our transdimentional relationships with our partners can begin almost the instant they leave their bodies.

 

Thinking that “death” has severed access to our darlings, we are instantly plunged into agonizing grief. Almost without exception, we are desperate and panicky to receive communication of any kind. Most of us long to die so we can be with them again.

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In time, we begin to learn about a variety of means people have used to connect with crossed-over loved ones. We hear about fantastic dream visits where people can hold and kiss their partners. We become fascinated with visualization and meditation methods claiming to be able to “open us up” to the vibrational dimension where our loves now resides. We devour books by authors who describe actual transdimensional travel where supposedly they visit with loved ones on the other side.

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We want to be able to do all of these things, too. And we’re willing to do whatever’s required so we, too, can meet up with our loves in ways that feel more solid, magical and meaningful than what our memories and our longings alone can deliver. But, eager as we are to get results by learning and practicing those new connection methods, our doubts and fears are usually right below the surface, ready to pounce on our attempts to connect in these new and foreign ways.

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Doubts, Fears and Worries

See if this any of these thoughts sounds familiar:

• “What if my ‘real seeming’ visitation dreams aren’t visits at all? What if they are just my over-active imagination?

• “Visualizations are fun, but they’re just my imagination. I bet I’m not really communicating with my partner.”

• “When I can get into it, meditation feels nice. I like the guided meditation that takes me to visit my partner’s new astral home. But those meditations probably aren’t real communication. And maybe ‘opening up’ is a made-up thing, too. I bet I’m just imagining all of it.”

• “Astral travel sounds cool and it could be real. But I bet not everyone can do it. I tried once or twice and nothing happened so I gave up.”

• “I want to imagine life with her again. But what if it’s all just make believe? What if I am fooling myself?”

 

Clearly, some of the biggest worries most people have with imagination-based processes, such as visualizations, dreams, astral projections and all experiences in-between include: 1. Knowing these transdimensional experiences are “real,” “possible” and accessible to everyone. 2. Understanding what they actually represent and 3. Respecting imagination as a vital and real part of these processes and the results we gain from them.

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Most of these concerns stem from a material-world perspective that classifies experiences only as “real” or “not real” or some mix. What the reader should keep in mind is that all experience is real because it occurs in the mind which is the root level of all of what we call reality; what is not real does not exist. It cannot be experienced in any way – imagination, dreams or what we call physical experience. If you experience it, it is real. The question is really only one of properly understanding what these experiences are, how the different flavors of experience relate to each other and how they can be properly used on our journey. We cannot “make things up” in our mind; all we can do is connect to real things that already exist in what you might call “universal mind.”

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How that connection is experienced (imagination, visualization, dream, astral projection, physical life,) and what we label the experience as, is determined by the strength and depth of the connection.

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The Power of Imagination

Imagination is almost never considered as a serious communication and manifestation tool when it comes to communicating and interacting with the dead. Instead it’s considered something unreal like child’s play or pretend fantasy. Its importance is relegated to one end of the “real” continuum as being “not real at all.” Meanwhile, astral projection might be placed at the other end and labeled as “real” because (from all accounts) it feels and behaves like our normal, “material-world” experience. And even then, we may wonder if those experiences are just imaginary.

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Research tells us that sorting and classifying such “inner world” experiences according to how “real” they feel to us relative to this earthly “material world” dimension is an inaccurate way of understanding what these experiences are, what they represent and how they serve us in our efforts to communicate with our partners. It would be better to think of imagination as observation or experience “at a distance,” like looking at something far away; you may not be able to make it out exactly, or smell it, or hear it, or touch it - but that doesn’t mean what you are observing is not real.

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Such classifications completely ignore the virtually universal agreement and evidence that says the physical earth plane we are familiar with is not the root of reality. Rather, our Earth plane is just another experiential realm. This world is just our local “mental” reality we are sharing with others. And, as is true with all experiential realms, it ultimately takes place at the mental or “causal” level. Even the very “real” people, places, things and experiences that fill our lives here is that which our mind has more fully “tuned in” to providing a fuller and richer experiential interaction. That doesn’t mean these people and things don’t exist, but rather that the nature of our existence is not rooted in the physical world, but in the mental, where everything is “manifested” into our lives, one way or another, by mental states, conditions, thought, intention, attention, and the subconscious.

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But what does that mean?

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Imagination: Our Personal Universal Search Engine; Intention Directs It and Attention Focuses It

We’ve been largely conditioned to dismiss imagination as trivial, but as it turns out, imagination is something far more interesting: it’s more like a universal search engine that you can use to search through infinite existence to locate people, things, situations, locations and information across all of what exists. You’re not actually “making stuff up” or “creating” anything; you’re finding what already exists somewhere in the deep reality matrix of all possible things.

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Virtually all afterlife and out-of-body experiencers report (and many spiritual doctrines and non-materialist secular perspectives agree) that, on the mental level, all thoughts have form and energy. Every thought is a connection to a real thing in what you might call “universal mind.” It is the infinite source of all possible connections to all real things; if you can imagine it, it exists and you can develop that connection into a fully realized experience, as good as or better than our physical world experience.

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Just using basic intention, we can turn our universal search engine of imagination towards anything and it will automatically bring in images, ideas, thoughts and information associated with that intention. So, when considering the various kinds of experiences we have, it helps to have a good understanding of the roles imagination, intention and attention play in helping to shape and manifest those experiences in the first place. It also helps to know that we can harness and direct our attention in the direction of our goals. That’s true if we want a better career, more friends or a nicer house. And it’s also true if what we want is to be as close as possible with our transdimensional romantic partners.

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We can understand these things easily by showing an every-day example of how these things work. First, think about how you move your physical body around; do you know which neurons to fire, what biomolecular chemicals to release in what order and in what strength, in order to direct and move your body? No; your body responds simply to your basic intention that it moves in the manner you direct. Let’s say you feel hungry; you might then have a basic intention to use your imaginative search engine to bring you some choices for what to eat. Ideas start appearing in your mind. Eventually one holds your attention and you decide and your mind and body start down the path of fully realizing that food into your physical experience through patterns we have learned are effective and useful in this local world of physically realized experience.

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Imagination-Based Communication Techniques

When we begin to practice techniques designed to focus our attention and desire on a particular person, place, or thing, that process we practice automatically starts strengthening our connection and building various other pathways to it—much like synapses in the brain build connections to each other. 

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The death of our beloved partners automatically and powerfully focuses our attention on them. If you’re reading this, you already have a very powerful intention to “find them” and, somehow, reacquire some form of a “locally realized” interaction and communication with them. The biggest problem here, however is that we usually discount the very tool we need to locate them and observer them “at a distance” as something that is not real - our imagination. Did you know that when you imagine something, say an apple, your subconscious can’t tell the difference between that imagined apple and a “real” apple? Did you know that the same biological processes will kick into gear if our experience is real or imagined? In the medical field this is broadly labeled “the placebo effect,” where beliefs, thoughts and mental states directly affect the physical processes of our body without even our conscious knowledge.

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At first, when practicing visualization, it can seem difficult to maintain focus on the person, place or thing you want to imagine and manifest in your experience. Your initial visualization attempts can feel very vague and tenuous. This happens when you haven’t yet built many strong connections to your desired vision, so the images you conjure up can feel fleeting and immaterial. Because they don’t feel quite real, it can seem like you’re just “making them up.”

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Remember, the old and easy connective routes to your partner have been disrupted by what we call “death,” and rebuilding a strong connective route transdimensionally requires that we pave new pathways of experience to them and them to us. Meanwhile, our partners are also working on building the new connections which usually show up in our experience as signs, thoughts, sensations, emotions and synchronicities.

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We already have very strong intention and focused attention; the third leg of this process is to allow our imagination to do its work in observing our partners “at a distance,” so to speak, and automatically start the process of moving us in the direction of more fully, locally realizing their presence in our lives. The easiest way to do this is by imagining and pretending they are still right here with us in our every-day lives by talking to them as if they are still right here, imagining or pretending they are sitting right next to you as you watch TV or reading, and are with you in bed as you fall asleep at night, holding you or in your arms.

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Imagine the two of you together doing whatever you want to do with them. Use memories to foster that sense of being with them now. Use whatever provides a strong emotional and psychological sense of them - videos, pictures, music, photographs, etc. Imagine where you will live and what you will do in the afterlife with them.

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Unexpected or unwanted imagery, thoughts or alternate scenarios might suddenly appear or start playing out in your internal awareness. Some of these can appear to be distracting and random while others can seem very validating and encouraging. Some, representing our own fears, doubts and insecurities, can be quite upsetting. This is normal and part of the process. For example, when trying to focus on connecting with your partner, you might suddenly begin to think of which bills you have yet to pay, or it might trigger an unhappy memory. This is just part of the “options” package your universal search engine has brought forth for you to select from; select the ones that foster good feelings, happiness, joy, and that sense of loving connection.

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All of this is to be expected. After all, we are building a connection network through new territory - an actual mental landscape. There’s nothing wrong with experiencing unwanted or distracting elements because they just represent the mental landscape you are navigating. If you run into something painful or some obstacle, you just deal with it like you would going through such things in your physical world by trial and effort and learning how to navigate such things as you continue on your journey.

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The Payoff

As you go down this road, all sorts of new, interesting, even wonderful and thrilling experiences might occur, seemingly randomly or in concurrence with your efforts. Signs, synchronicities, dreams, flashes of full sensory experience, entirely new sensations, new thoughts, new ideas, different and new psychological states that you never imagined possible before, etc. This is the process of actually, physically, mentally and psychologically moving your conscious experience in a new direction; towards where your partner is now, and towards where you can have a successful communicative and interactive relationship with them now, instead of where they used to be and how the old connection to them used to work.

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For example, you may begin to feel your partner touch you, tingling, an energetic vibration in your head or body; heightened emotional sensations from your partner, new ideas on things to imagine or do with your loved one; synchronicities may start occurring, and you may meet people or find other materials that help you down this path. You will probably develop the capacity to sense them better with different sensory capacities than you used to use because you didn’t really need them, or need to develop them, when they were physically and locally realized in your life.

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We may experience what seem to be random hypnagogia and dreams. It can be difficult for our current conscious state to remember and properly interpret these experiences which occur in an altered state of consciousness, but with practice it becomes easier and the hypnagogia and dreams become more on-target, memorable and understandable. Remember, you’re actually moving through new mental territory and there will be many things to experience there which at first seem random or difficult to understand; the main thing is to stay on course with your partner and these things will clear themselves up.

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Astral projections and so-called “dream visitations” can occur any time along the way. When these happen, we experience them as being 100% real. They are solid and consistent as life on earth and do not feel at all like an ordinary dream or a visualization. They can also visit in regular dreams, but this is where our own subconscious fears, insecurities and doubts can cause upsetting elements to appear in the dream. My personal method of dealing with such dream elements was to simply understand them as representative of my own internal issues that I had to deal with and nothing more. If I got to see Irene or speak to her in the dream, I just focused on that and appreciated it. I told her in the beginning I would never let such things bother or deter me so she could feel free to try all she wanted and not have to worry about whether or not I would take anything negative that happened as something she was intending or was trying to get across to me.

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Such astral projections and dreams are a most desired form of transdimensional communication. Everyone would love the opportunity to visit in real time with his or her love. Visualizations and meditations can lead to these extraordinary experiences, but most often, not always and not consistently. Remaining appreciative, no matter what, is one big key to staying relaxed and in a receptive mode as you explore this new territory and new way of continuing your relationship.

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As we begin exploring this new interior landscape in an effort to connect with our spouse or partner, we may encounter new people and experiences in our exterior lives that support or challenge our journeys. It’s all good and it’s all to be expected. Remember, we’re cutting a new path through our mental territory. All of those people and experiences—even the unwanted ones-- can be used to our advantage. They all can be used to help us find ways to strengthen our understanding of the power of imagination, intention and attention.

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As we move down this path, we find ourselves in sustained psychological states that we didn’t even know were possible because we have successfully re-programmed and re-wired ourselves to be able to access them.

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One Last Reminder

Ultimately, nothing that goes on in our mind is “unreal” because “reality” is all that exists. Nothing “unreal” can exist. Everything—even that which exists in the physical world—is mental phenomena. The extent to which we experience real mental phenomena depends on one thing: the strength, breadth and depth of our energetic, conscious and sensory connection to it. These connections are strengthened when we focus our attention on whatever it is we wish to experience, including our beloved partners.

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The methods discussed above have other benefits. They actually work to rewire the synaptic patterns in our brains and to recondition or reprogram our negative subconscious beliefs. As a result, we can completely replace grief with genuine feelings of excitement, satisfaction and joy. These practices (along with meditation and other forms of mental discipline) exercise the capacity of our mind to locate and fully manifest thought forms into full experiential reality, which will be of benefit to us even after we cross over and join our partners fully.

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When we actively and deliberately join our positive imaginations with those of our partners, we can manifest a present and a future overflowing with our deepest dreams and desires come true. However, please keep in mind that your attention on your partner, and your intention to be with them again, coupled with anything you do during the day to ‘imagine” or “pretend” that they are with you - like just talking to them, out loud or in your mind, or pouring them a cup of coffee in the morning, or leaning over to light their cigarette, or asking them to remind you of something in the future or help with with some issue if they can - is already doing the vast bulk of the work of getting you to where you want to be.

 

Additional efforts like meditation, longer efforts of visualization, or various spiritual practices or mental discipline efforts might be of help and use, and they may bring you very meaningful experiences, but don’t let them become frustrating or a source of any sense of failure or “falling behind” or “not doing what you need to do” or the idea that you’re doing something wrong. This is almost always a long-term, patient process of completely reprogramming your subconscious and re-wiring your brain, nervous system and physical body. Those old states do not go willingly, quietly into that good night, so to speak. It can be a very difficult process to go through, but the very difficulty of it speaks to the fact that you have gone off the old path and are now learning how to traverse a new landscape into a new world of experience.

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One last tip: your subconscious is listening to everything you say, either out loud, or write, or in your head; pay attention to what you are telling your subconscious. If you are always saying you are in pain, or that you can’t do this or that, or that this or that is not happening, or that you lost your partner, or that you cannot communicate with them, you are actively strengthening that programming and keeping those physical processes active. You might consider changing that programming by changing those thoughts and words, such as: “I can feel, see and hear you. We are happy and our relationship is wonderful, fulfilling and fun. I know you love me and are right here with me.”

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These are “in the now,” (not future tense, and not negative-inverse statements like “I will be happy” or “I am not in grief anymore, which the subconscious doesn’t compute well,) statements that help reprogram the subconscious and build new physiological pathways to accommodate this new internal and external dialogue.

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Terms, Definitions and Explanations

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Imagination: our universal search engine of all things that actually exist, somewhere, and which actually connect us to those things we imagine.

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Intention: the essence of our free will, to point our minds or bodies in a direction or towards something.

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Attention: the capacity to focus our minds on a thing, person, situation or in a direction and which actually moves us in one direction or another and draws those things into more realized, physical and experiential focus.

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Visualization: imagined scenarios fueled by feelings. Visualizations can have a profound effect on the subconscious and psyche, as researchers have found the body reacts to visualizations the same way it does to physical reality. This technique is used to recondition people suffering from various psychological traumas. With practice, visualized connections to desired people, places or outcomes can be greatly strengthened and can result in observable “real life” manifestations that mirror the visualizations.

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Hypnagogia: when meditating or visualizing, sometimes your conscious awareness can become somewhat diffuse and what appear to be random, dream-like scenarios can start unfolding. This usually happens right when one is falling asleep. These represent areas of mind where things are, or are occurring, that we are not aware of in our normal conscious state. All around our conscious connections are landscapes of reality we have very little connection to. With practice, one can stay conscious during these scenarios and remember them, and even use them to pursue deeper, more realistic experiences. Often, our mind will interpret these areas as best it can in terms of symbolic representations that we may find very meaningful. They can also just be interesting, fun or weird things.

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Dreams: these experiences run the gamut from the very fleeting to the hyper-real experience called a dream visitation. Depending on how flexible or fluid our waking consciousness is (and also depending on other factors), we can have and remember all sorts of fun dream experiences that are basically longer, more involved hypnagogic experiences, unless they are more in line with our current consciousness’ firm energetic pathways and may be experienced while lucid as reality. Dream experiences are all of real things (like any mental experience), but our sense of reality during the experience depends on our energetic connection and our how well our current consciousness can accept and interpret them.

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Astral senses: during meditation and visualization, and sometimes just out of the blue, we can experience flashes of sight, hearing, touch, and “knowing”. These represent our growing capacity to more fully experience the realities beyond our current physical world experience. These are experienced as full real things. For instance, hearing a voice, feeling a touch, or seeing something with eyes closed that looks and feels the same as if your eyes were open and you are looking at a physical world thing.

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Astral Travel: not to be confused with astral projection, astral travel is the same as astral projection except your presence at a real location is not embodied. You are seeing things more from a third-person view than as a person with a body in the environment. It is often called “remote viewing,” but it’s more like “remote experiencing.”

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Astral Projection: an astral projection is when you actually find yourself, fully physical, fully conscious, in a fully physical 3D environment that feels and acts 100% real. It is indistinguishable from a normal, physical world experience other than the world you are in may have dissimilar features, new colors, etc., and you may have heightened senses, emotional capacity and abilities.